Wedding rings, wedding rings, wedding rings. What do they mean? Is it an opportunity to be flashy or is there a symbolic purpose behind them? I’ve been chatting with some brides-to-be and married couples to find out their views and there were some interesting findings.
Firstly, let’s start with the history side of things. The wedding ring is known worldwide as a symbol of marriage whether that be heterosexual or homosexual. The circular shape of the ring symbolises eternity as it has no beginning or end, just like time. Rings are made in all sorts of metals but in Irish folklore it’s believed to be bad luck if you marry with a ring made of anything but gold.
What are your thoughts on married men choosing not to wear a wedding ring? My husband is a believer that wedding rings are unnecessary and he chooses not to wear one. This was a huge bonus for me as I took his share of the ring budget!
In all seriousness though, does it matter if your partner chooses not to wear a wedding ring? Is it a lack of commitment or simply a modern take on a tradition? Famously, Prince William decided not to wear a wedding ring when he married Kate last year.
My husband would sooner have my name tattooed on him than wear a piece of jewellery, simply because he doesn’t wear any jewellery. Rest assured I have told him he does not have my permission to ink himself with my name – I’m simply not a fan of ‘branding’.
My discussions with other ladies indicated that women are far more concerned about wedding rings; we invest a lot of time and effort in finding the perfect ring. We are clearly aware that we are wearing this piece of jewellery for life and we want it to fit with us and our lifestyles.
Some women have a number of wedding rings and expensive ones that I’d be scared to wear. I don’t understand the need to be extremely flashy; besides, I’d constantly be terrified that someone would chop off my hand every time I went to the supermarket or on holiday.
For me, my wedding ring is sentimental and symbolic. Ok, so it might have come from Tiffany & Co but the whole journey to choosing my wedding ring and the trip to New York just adds to the sentiment, not the flashiness of it all. In fact, it’s very classic and low key for a Tiffany & Co ring.
Your wedding ring is the one materialistic thing that you take away from your wedding day. I love the gesture and sentiment and believe both husband and wife should share in this commitment and tradition.
Men seem to be less concerned with the details of wedding rings and appear happy to just ‘settle’ with whatever they are given. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.
You sometimes feel that you’re forced to follow traditions and you must do this and you must do that, but the act of marriage itself, the commitment and declaration to each other, far outweighs any materialistic items. The wedding party, elaborate jewellery and dresses are just a part of the day, they don’t actually mean much in the grand scheme of things.
I tell you what, if everybody put half as much effort into their marriage as they did for their wedding plans, I’m convinced divorce rates would be much lower. *Stepping off my high horse now*
Penelope x x