Yesterday we discussed a few of the familiar and not so familiar wedding superstitions and their origins so we’re continuing this quest today. Many wedding superstitions date back to Roman and Anglo Saxon times with rhymes influenced by the Victorian era.
Did you know that Sunday used to be the most popular day for marriage as this was the day when most people were free from work? In the Seventeenth Century this was changed as the Puritans believed it was inappropriate activity for the Sabbath. Nowadays each day of the week is utilised for weddings, with Saturday being the most popular despite the rhyme:
Monday for health,
Tuesday for wealth,
Wednesday best of all,
Thursday for losses,
Friday for crosses,
Saturday for no luck at all!
Way back in the day, wedding cakes used to be lots of little wheat cakes broken over the Bride’s head to bestow fertility and good luck. Things have moved onto tiered cakes and the increasingly popular trend of individual cupcakes. Couples cut the cake together to signify sharing their lives together. Guests are invited to eat the cake to ensure the couple are blessed with good luck throughout their marriage.
Everybody has heard of the superstition that it’s unlucky for the groom to see the bride before the ceremony, but where did this come from? Apparently many marriages were arranged for ‘ugly’ women and often the bride and groom had never met. When the groom saw his future wife, usually dressed in white, for the first time on the day of the wedding, he changed his mind and left the bride at the altar. To prevent this from happening, it became “bad luck” for the groom to see the bride on the day of the wedding prior to the ceremony so this tradition was born!
It’s only since the Nineteen Hundreds that brides have been purchasing special wedding day gowns. Before then they simply wore their best available outfit. Queen Victoria was responsible for making white dresses popular as she broke the tradition of Royals marrying in silver. Green was always avoided as it symbolised loose morals with the green colour coming from grass stained clothing after rolling around in the fields!
Married in White, you have chosen right
Married in Grey, you will go far away,
Married in Black, you will wish yourself back,
Married in Red, you will wish yourself dead
Married in Green, ashamed to be seen,
Married in Blue, you will always be true,
Married in Pearl, you will live a whirl,
Married in Yellow, ashamed of your fellow,
Married in Brown, you will live in the town,
Married in Pink, your spirit will sink.
A bride should never practise signing her new name until she is legally married as she is tempting fate! I admit that I ignored this tradition and I’m sure many others have too.
After all of this information are you utterly bamboozled? I’m quite pleased that I didn’t know about the majority of these superstitions as I’m sure I would have tried to accommodate them into my wedding day even though I know it’s silly. Relationships work and fail solely on the merits of the people involved in that relationship.
I am a strong believer that no higher being or superstitious tradition can affect your relationship. However, some of the traditions are a ‘nice to do’ on your wedding day but that’s about it.
Penelope x x